Michelle Harvey-Fogg
Attachment based psychotherapy and COUNSELLING IN Worthing, West Sussex & online
Anxiety and Attachment: How your nervous system shapes your relationships.
If you struggle with anxiety in relationships, constant overthinking, or a fear of rejection, you're not alone. Many people don't realise that anxiety is often connected to their attachment style and the way their nervous system learned to respond to stress from an early age. Understanding this connection can be the first step towards healing. […]
The many faces of grief
Grief is often associated with the death of a loved one, but it can also follow the end of a relationship, a change in health, the loss of a job, or even the life we had imagined for ourselves. Whatever the cause, grief is a natural response to losing someone or something that mattered. From […]
The Inner Critic
Do you struggle with a harsh inner voice that constantly tells you you’re not good enough? If so, you’re not alone. Many people seek therapy because they experience persistent self-criticism, low self-esteem, anxiety, and self-doubt. Understanding and overcoming your inner critic can be an important step towards improved mental health and emotional wellbeing. What Is […]
Being Neurodiverse in a Neurotypical world
For many neurodivergent people, moving through the world can feel both exhausting and isolating. There can be a quiet sense of feeling different — of working harder to navigate social expectations, sensory environments, relationships, or everyday demands that seem to come more naturally to others. Many people grow up without fully understanding why they feel […]
Choosing the right therapist
Choosing a therapist can feel a bit overwhelming, especially when you’re already carrying stress, anxiety, or emotional pain. The good news is that finding the right therapist is less about choosing the “best” therapist and more about finding the right fit for you. Start by thinking about what you want support with. Some therapists specialise […]
Why do I keep doing the same things?
Repetition compulsion, a concept first described by Sigmund Freud, refers to our unconscious tendency to recreate unresolved emotional experiences. In attachment-based therapy, we understand this pattern through the lens of early relationships. The bonds you formed with caregivers shaped your nervous system’s expectations about love, safety, and belonging. If you grew up with inconsistency, criticism, or emotional distance, those dynamics can feel strangely familiar in adulthood. You might pursue partners who are unavailable, feel anxious when someone gets close, or withdraw when intimacy deepens. This isn’t self-sabotage—it’s your attachment system trying to maintain what feels known, even if it’s painful. […]