Michelle Harvey-Fogg
Attachment based psychotherapy and COUNSELLING IN Worthing, West Sussex & online
The Inner Critic
Do you struggle with a harsh inner voice that constantly tells you you’re not good enough? If so, you’re not alone. Many people seek therapy because they experience persistent self-criticism, low self-esteem, anxiety, and self-doubt. Understanding and overcoming your inner critic can be an important step towards improved mental health and emotional wellbeing. What Is […]
Being Neurodiverse in a Neurotypical world
For many neurodivergent people, moving through the world can feel both exhausting and isolating. There can be a quiet sense of feeling different — of working harder to navigate social expectations, sensory environments, relationships, or everyday demands that seem to come more naturally to others. Many people grow up without fully understanding why they feel […]
Choosing the right therapist
Choosing a therapist can feel a bit overwhelming, especially when you’re already carrying stress, anxiety, or emotional pain. The good news is that finding the right therapist is less about choosing the “best” therapist and more about finding the right fit for you. Start by thinking about what you want support with. Some therapists specialise […]
Why do I keep doing the same things?
Repetition compulsion, a concept first described by Sigmund Freud, refers to our unconscious tendency to recreate unresolved emotional experiences. In attachment-based therapy, we understand this pattern through the lens of early relationships. The bonds you formed with caregivers shaped your nervous system’s expectations about love, safety, and belonging. If you grew up with inconsistency, criticism, or emotional distance, those dynamics can feel strangely familiar in adulthood. You might pursue partners who are unavailable, feel anxious when someone gets close, or withdraw when intimacy deepens. This isn’t self-sabotage—it’s your attachment system trying to maintain what feels known, even if it’s painful. […]
Perfectionism and Attachment: Why letting go feels so hard.
Perfectionism is often misunderstood as a personality trait or a sign of high achievement. In reality, perfectionism is frequently rooted in early attachment experiences, and developed as a way to stay emotionally safe in relationships. From an attachment-based perspective, perfectionism begins in childhood when love, approval, or emotional availability feels conditional. Children adapt to ...
Understanding Attachment: How our early relationships shape us.
The word “attachment” is often used in therapy, but at its heart it’s about something deeply human: our need for connection, safety, and belonging. From our earliest relationships, we learn what to expect from others and from ourselves. Were we soothed when we were upset? Did we feel seen, protected, or understood? These early experiences quietly shape how we relate to people later in life. Attachment patterns can show up in many ways. You might notice anxiety about being left, discomfort with closeness, difficulty trusting others, or a tendency to put others’ needs far beyond your own. These patterns are […]
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